The Real Black on Black Crime is not Illegal!

After watching another informative YouTube video http://youtu.be/2ctxwP9R_sg Maafa21 I learned a great deal about something I know very little about Eugenics. (Google it because it's very detailed.) I remember when I was a little girl and all the Black radio stations used to advertise HER medical clinic which offered low cost or free tubal ligation. Of course as a ten year old I had no idea that this was a form of sterilization but I do remember conversations regarding the "slaughter house" and how it was placed in the Black community to "get rid of  us". The sad thing is I never knew that not only could this be true, but that me and many of my friends and family members had been a part of the genocide of our own race. We have been taught that we have a right to choose, but we had no clue that the choice had been set to a jingle and been placed in our faces to be an easy way to get out of a mistake. Well after the third time it really isn't a mistake. More like a reckless behavior that has caused irreversible damage to a community and a nation. Yes, it seems the United States government has been sponsoring the genocide of the Black race and we have been voting for it! You wonder why you don't see a lot of blacks at the grocery store or on the local  playground? They didn't make it. I know this is disturbing and it's disturbing to write but I feel compelled to say this, WE NEED TO STOP TELLING YOUNG GIRLS TO HAVE ABORTIONS! POWER IN NUMBERS IS REAL! Drive down any major street east of Normandie and notice all the newly built schools. You know why they are there? Because they are filled children, thousands of them and they AIN'T BLACK! Between abortions, HIV, the crack cocaine epidemic, the prosecutions and unfare sentencing of Black males who are incarcerated our race is nearly extinct. In 50 years we will be like Native Americans living on reservations. People will say, there used to be a lot of African-Americans but they killed each other off. The old people used to say, "and don't have a bunch of babies!" I didn't listen to much of their advice but I did listen to that one piece.

I find myself middle-aged and realize that was a bad idea. I should have had more children. I am a good mother and have a great deal of love to share and life lessons to teach. My mom had three kids and at my age she was doing much better than I am today. Less children doesn't seem to have anyone in a better financial or personal situation. The economic down turn has hit single people just as hard as married people with children.

African-Americans need to wake up, we are teaching our children the wrong things.And mainstream media is assisting in doing more damage with misogynistic music and negative television personalities.We need more unity. We need to love one another, respect one another, honor one another, support one another and teach one another. The world as we know it is coming apart by the strings and it is time to get together and realize that ever since the first slave ship landed we have been a problem for this country.And they have been attempting to show the world we deserved the mistreatment.  The US Government has done all sorts of atrocities to us and have taught us to now do it to ourselves. The top 1% have always seen the slaves and their descendants as an end to justify their means. Now that they play on the global market we really aren't necessary, seems as if they are attempting to starve us out. But we have a secret weapon, we could always....STOP supporting them. Black on Black crime needs to stop and we are the only ones who can stop it!

Proceed with Caution!

Y.D.C.

You Think She is a Jump Off? So Are YOU!

My phone rang around 12:30a.m. I had just come from the Regal Beagle, I was drunk as hell. My car drove itself around the corner. Thank God she knew the way home. "Hello"..."Hey." "You up? "Yeah"..."Come around here." "Okay." So I jump my drunk ass back in the car and go over his house. "You thirsty?" "No"... "You hungry?" "No"... "Lay your ass down!" Music plays, you fill in the blanks. Okay... Damn it's 5a.m. I have to get home before BK wakes up! Do you know how many times I did this before I realized this is the dumbest shit ever? News Flash: A booty call means you ain't the one! Let me say this one more time ladies, a jump off, booty call, late night hype whatever you want to call it, You ain't the one!  Now, you may be saying, you don't care and you're just having fun; don't play a player or try to sell me this bullshit. I know the real. You sleeping with dude because you like it and him. Very few women can just slept with men with no strings attached.

Which one are you?

• Lonely- I really desire a man, unfortunately I don't have one. I'll take a piece of a man.(desperate)
• Competitive- So caught up in the competition I will tolerate almost any humiliation just to be the winner. ( last man standing)
• Hot Horny- sexually frustrated, when I do find someone who can bring it in bed. I cannot get enough.(repeat offender)

Whatever you're telling yourself to keep this foolishness going, you need to stop. Destructive behavior is why some women cannot find a serious relationship. Men don't have to wait for the prize. Women giving out the prize before the race in run! Trust me, I know because I was once a repeat offender. If you have been sleeping with a man for over a six months and he never takes you on dates, you never met his family or friends and he does not do anything for you......You ain't the one! Do yourself a favor, loose his number and date someone you may not be assexually attracted to. Sex complicates everything. Once you take sex out of the equation the problems are not as difficult solve.

Side note: If you are married or in a relationship and your man's ex-wife, baby momma or old jump off is still trippin', she isn't trippin'. He is sleeping with her! She isn't crazy, you are for believing him. Once again, do not shoot the messenger!

Proceed with Caution!

I Should Have Written a Relationship book!

  Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey is now becoming a film for the big screen. Why? Most of the details in this book are common sense. Every woman over the age of thirty should know when a man is playing them. When a man really wants to be with you he does everything in his power to show you he wants to be with you. If you are still chasing a man after two years of dating, news flash; he is not fucking with you. Move on! I find it funny how the very men who give this advice to women want to get paid for the information. Steve Harvey would tell you for free, like your mother did if he were genuinely attempting to help. The messages are not new; they are just coming from a new source. The same people that have been cheating on their women and wives for years are now giving out healthy relationship advice for $19.99 plus shipping and handling. I've been thinking like a man for twenty years and you know where it got me?   Thinking I could date multiple men at a time and tell them lies, big mistake. I let some good men go playing too much. Men are not the smart ones, women are. The problem is we watch the news, listen to statistics that tell us there are no men. That is not true. All men are not gay, on drugs, or in prison. Maybe you should think about dating a younger man, or one who drives are car you don't like, or one who wears clothes that may not be in style. Our expectations of a man may be too high. Women want the knight in shinning armor, I say save you! Cinderella was white! You see the Princess and the Frog, she had to work for her prince and make the best gumbo. Work on you and once you have thrown all your old baggage away and killed your demons you will find the right person and you don't need Steve Harvey or Dr. Phil to tell you that because you already know.

This is a re-post and has been slightly updated when I heard the news Steve Harvey's first book is now in film production....Once again, I am confused!

Why Don't You Mind Your Own Business?

   As I mature, reality has shown me, I talk too much. I talk about people I don't know. I talk about people I do know. Friends develop the tendency to form opinions of what others should or should not do.What affords me the right to judge you? My life isn't together...but I will sit here and past judgment in a minute. I have just as many questionable decisions made as the next person but of course I never see what I need to do. But when my girlfriends get together and discuss me, I'm sure they have a plenty of suggestions, that they conveniently forget to share with me....thus like I said in the title...MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS! With the exception of maybe three or four people, everyone I know has plenty of room for personal improvement.
We could all use a bit of personal development:

•   Continuing Education- Americans are less educated than they were 20 years ago. With more televised programming and the internet, how many people read meaningful books that enrich their lives?

•   A Healthier Lifestyle-Obesity is alarming in the African-American community, I see women looking phenomenal, designer bags and shoes, but they are thirty to forty pounds over weight. Use the hour spent on B.S. to walk around your neighborhood!

•   Volunteer- So many people are unemployed, take this excellent opportunity to go to you local elementary school and donate an hour or two of your time. You will feel great and the school NEEDS the assistance. If you cannot deal with the children, try a hospital or a home for Senior Citizens.

  Spend time working you and making better decisions in your life. You will have no time to talk so much about others. No one is perfect and I am sure I will be discussing BBW LA later but I am making a conscious effort to work on YOLANDA. (ME) The 12 step program starts with the first step! Take the first step in becoming a better you. We are all "they" collectively. I am mentioning "they" because most statements begin with, "girl they said, blah, blah, blah".It's time to discuss what is most important.....YOU!

P.S. If you are my personal friend do not take this personally!

Proceed with Caution!

Did You Know Men Don't Like Fake Hair?

Today I talked to one of my close male friends. He expressed his distaste for all of the what he referred to as "fake shit". He told me about a party he attended where 75% of all the ladies were wearing; fake hair, fake nails, artificial eyelashes and too much make-up. He said they looked like monsters. He said the eyelashes were the WORST! I attempted to explain to him the different reasons why women prefer weaves, wigs and braids but he was not having it. This man is handsome,educated, employed, heterosexual and single.I have known him for years and he is one of the most sincere men I know. He is active in his daughter's life and would like to meet someone who is not what he referred to as "fake." No, I am not looking for a date for my friend but I am sending women out there a message, "less is more". My mother told me this when I was a teenager. I have practiced this mantra all my life and it works pretty well. I have never had a hard time finding people to date. Many times the things women break their necks to do, men not only don't notice, they do not like it. So enough already, with the rainbow hair, multi-color nails in 3-D and tattooed necks. Let's get back to basics and I'm sure we will see different results. FYI----Please do not shoot the messenger.

Do We Spend Enough Quality Time with Our Children?

As sit on the couch and play Fortune Jewels on Facebook, Brooklynn is the her room watching Teen Nick.Yes, we are in the house together but I am doing my thing and she is doing hers. Sometimes I think about asking her to come and play with me and then I change my mind because she will say I am disturbing her show. Then many times when she wants to tell all of her stories, I'm not interested. I know it may sound harsh but it's true. Being caught up in social climbing, financial difficulties, marital and other family issues can often leave your child the odd man out. The pressure of raising children alone leaves the custodial parent fatigued physically and mentally. We want to engage more but by the time you have provided all of your child's needs, you many times don't have the energy to play a game or listen to the playground gossip of the day. As parents how are we going to give our children all the time they need without loosing ourselves in the process?

Equal Right to Pay.........I'll pass

That Bullshit! Yes, I am on it! I am sick of being responsible for everything! Why did women want liberation. I wish is was like the old days. Forget the notion of having it all. The only people who have it all are white and blonde. And it comes with many strings attached like Viagra. The rest us the other hand are forced to do it all. Most the time, with little appreciation or compensation. Personally, I'm over it. I'll take the back seat for a while. Bring home the bacon, I will fry it. I don't have the energy nor the desire to worry about cooking, cleaning, mothering, fucking, and paying. I would rather watch last week's episode of the Tudors. So to all the working mothers of the world, we should all say, "fuck it" and let the men do the worrying like it used to be. Women didn't have strokes and heart attacks. We had babies. I'm not trying to be a man. We are messing up God's natural order. Men were sentenced to work. And we were sentenced to labor pains. Somehow they stop working and we still have the labor pains. What the hell happened?