Are You Happy? You Should Be...

Happiness lives or dies our minds. If we think we are happy, then we are happy. If we think we are having a great time, we have a great time. Many times we try too hard to be sad. Focusing on the negative aspects of an issue only makes us feel worse, all we have to do is be still and recognize all the blessings we take for granted. Watching a television program about a young man in his early twenties with total paralysis from a high school football injury reminds me of the blessings I have. Like, having the opportunity I watch my child run and play. Hearing stories of women in prison for defending themselves against a violent spouse, reminds me of how blessed I am to have a spouse who honors and respects me. While we sit complaining about this or that remember this is just one moment in time and does not reflect your entire life. Decide to be happy. Whatever you are unhappy with, you have the ability to transform the situation. I thank God for sad days. Sad days afford me time to be still and think about what is important. Health, sanity and the ability to make my life whatever I desire it to be. I hope hold the key to my future. Waiting on someone else to make me happy is insane. Happiness is in my daughter's eyes. When she smiles at me and says, "I love you, Mommie!" I know she means it. I do not have time to be unhappy. I have a life to live. Don't you?

Remember Senior Year? Life Changes Quick!

With so many of my close friends and family members' children graduating this year, it took me back to my Senior year. I thought I was GROWN. You could not tell me NOTHING! Last week my fiance's daughter went to the prom. She looked beautiful. All dolled up. But there was one difference, no dates. Stag is in style. The BFF's went together looking like a million bucks. Her father proudly placed the corsage on her wrist and he was as proud as a Peacock. I remembered when I went to the prom. I wished my Dad was there to see me off. My date was arguably the finest guy there and all I wanted to do was go be a man 9 years my senior. :( Anyway, all this has me thinking of all the fun and excitement I had back then. Seems like yesterday, but actually it was almost twenty years ago. Looking for material for the dress, shoes, jewelry, and you know the Feather was Bangin'! Times have changed, people are spending thousands of dollars on Proms and renting hotel rooms for there children. I guess it's because this is the closest most girls will come to a wedding? Sad, but true. Do the parents who spend this ridiculous sum of cash on a prom spend equal cash on tutors, trips abroad or college prep-courses? Probably not because we live in a world of appearances. As long as we look good, then it's all good. I hope it all works out. All the money my mother spent on the festivities, I didn't get my CapNGown until two days before graduation. And some of these kids going to prom are not graduating or going to college. Where do you go when you don't seek an education in 2009. HELL, the military won't even take you. I went on a US tour after graduation. I roamed the USA in search of LOVE, FUN, AND CASH! Had lots of Fun, found and lost LOVES and wasted ALL the CASH! My Senior year was exciting. I had all these hopes and dreams of what I thought my life would be. Boy was I naive. Life is rough. You only get what you put into it. Hard work and perseverance pay off. The best advice I can give to a young person is enjoy this last hooray because real life comes fast and furious and it does not give refunds or exchanges. Once you buy it you keep it!

When is the Relationship Over?

Most people have a had a relationship go all wrong. One day everything is all laughs and giggles and then one big blow out and you never speak again. Well that's how it seems at the time but really relationships end before we officially call it "quits." I had a relationship with someone who I thought was a friend. But time after time this person kept doing things I did not like. Offensive things. Rude and selfish things. I let them pass because I was giving the person the benefit of the doubt. But in reality I knew this relationship was over months ago, but of course there is always the straw that breaks the camel's back. Now the relationship is over. Why don't we end these hopeless relationships before someone gets hurt. This is not just for intimate relationships this goes for platonic friendships as well. There's nothing worse than being betrayed by someone you considered a friend. But as we grow older we realize that everyone is not a true friend. True friends don't need validations or pats on the back. They always come even when you don't call and they will never betray you for silver or gold. We choose our friends. And we make our enemies. Life is too short to dwell on negative issues but for anyone holding on to a friendship/relationship that you know has run it's course, be the bigger person and cancel that subscription to bullshit. If you are sitting around waiting for a grown man/woman to change: new flash........It's not going to happen! You change. Stop taking shorts. Only deal with the real! Don't be like Gladys Knight, be the first to say, "Farewell" Look to the future where positive relationships beget positive results. In your heart you know when it's over.........JUST SAY IT!

A Change Would Do You Good

Another hang over. Damn, I've been drinking since the 8th grade. Back then I did not know what a hangover was. But now, the recovery time is a little too extensive. I look back over these last 20 years and I think of all the fun I had drinking with my girls and I'm over it! This past weekend I realized that fun with friends is cool but the whole "homegirlitis" I'm cool, I want more. I have stayed at many of the country's four and start hotels and resorts. All I can tell you about them is what the lobby and bar look like. I never take time and enjoy my $300 a night vacation because I have a hangover. Then when I finally get myself together, I get dressed and go out and get faded again. Yeah, a change can do you and me good. It has taken me along time to get to this point but I would rather write, play poker or read a good book. My interests have changed and to get where I want to be, a hangover is just something else blocking me from my destiny. I'M COOL~