Are You Stuck in the Middle?

Too old for a Hollywood night club but a little too young for the VFW Post. Too old for Forever 21 but not quite old enough for Chico's or Ann Taylor. Too old for a Lil' Wayne concert but to young for Jazz at the Bowl on Wednesday nights.Unfortunately this is where many people in their late thirties early forties are finding themselves. Many people our age would love to be married with children, enjoying family vacations and backyard barbeques but unfortunately too many of us are still single and bored as hell. Being single is a uncomfortable place for many people I like to refer to as 'stuck in the middle'. Spending time with my friends I see the boredom they deal with every weekend. The desire to continue to go out and have a good time but the limited to places to enjoy themselves. Going to a Hip Hop nightclub makes many people in this age group feel like a Cougar or a Sugar Daddy. No wants to be the old lady/man at the club. What can we do? I remember when I was 25, I thought 40 was old! Now I see 40 is not old. It is very unfortunate people in this age group have very little social activities directed toward them. Single women have it the worse because their options are limited.Where do they to meet quality men? Being stuck in the middle is no fun! I equate it to being 12 years old.When you are twelve, you feel too old to play with the little kids, but you are too young to hang out with the teenagers. I wish I had a solution for this problem.

   I feel the pressure of being stuck in the middle in different ways. The space in between marriage and old friendships is a tough place to be in. Quality time with a spouse or girls night out can be a hard choice. Many times I just want to vent about my week and laugh with girlfriends about old times or girlfriend gossip.At the same time, I do not want to neglect my family. Growing up was difficult enough, I assumed by now I would have had it all figured out. Boy was I wrong.....