Where Do We Go from Here?

Los Angeles, CA is one of the largest cities in the world. Los Angeles is supposed to be one of the world's meccas for nightlife and non-stop fun. Unfortunately if you are Black and over the age of 35 there are very few opportunities to do so.Clubs in Hollywood are too young, most of the bowling alleys and local bars are either for senior citizens or are so crowded you cannot even find a seat. Where can a middle aged person go to have a drink, hear some music or have a great debate with cool men and women about life, politics, religion or what we love to debate about: Men vs.Women. Staying home is boring. How much reality TV can one watch? How many times can you yell at Kobe without him listening? How many more seasons of American Idol and DWTS can one take with regurgitating on the couch? Our city is desperate need of a urban hangout suite. A place where people can come together without the riff-raft ruining it. We need a Cheers... as place where everybody knows your name and is always glad you came. Or maybe Eddie Murphy can open Ray's Boom-Boom room. I am so tired of having nothing to do. I don't want to go to the movies. I am tired of the same three places that will remain nameless... I wonder if other cities are in the dire straits Los Angeles is in? I remember traveling to Chicago every other week and enjoying Rush Street and enjoying the plethora of bars, lounges, clubs and restaurants. Where is our Rush Street? What happened to the 1970's and 1980's when Crenshaw Blvd. had bars and restaurants left and right? Why is our community so disenfranchised? When are the leaders going to realize we need more than fast food, churches, nail shops and liquor stores in our community. Personally I'm tired of the way things are and I am going to start mobilizing and begin taking action. Something must be done! I am starting a movement! Bring Black LA back to life! We are more than people who drive long distances to spend our money and get treated poorly when we get there! Not sure what I am going to do but this is something that has been on my mind.


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Rebuttal to 10 Reasons MEN WON'T DATE YOU!

10 Reasons Men Won't Date You LOL

This is a rebuttal to the post I just read and copied. I feel you on some of the points but many of the points are just excuses. If a real woman, encounters a real man, 75% of everything on your list would be void. We all have a past, but we do not have to keep re-living our past. Depending on a person's age, financial status, demographics, educational background, family size and social personality for lack of a better word, these usually dictate where they go and who they know. Just because a woman stays home does not mean she would make a good mate for a man. Some women stay home and sleep with all their friends men while they are out a parties. Some women stay home and smoke weed while their children sleep in the other room. Some women stay home and don't cook, clean, or pay their bills. Some women only go to church activities and are sleeping with all the deacons and choir members. Of course I am only saying this to show that these generalizations you made are just that. I will only speak for myself because at times in my life I have been similar to the women you described and I have always had plenty of dates!

1. Nosy: Information is they key to any decision. Men who do not want to give out information are hiding things. Like their true marital status, true number of kids (even the ones you don't claim), their real address, (not sister/momma house), where they really work (no where) and real car (not the motorcycle) the 1996 Camry. Women over 35 have no time to relax,relate and release. Women are trying to find a mate. The clock is ticking and they need someone to come help pay their mortgage so they can buy some income property!
2. Male Friends: I cannot understand why Black men cannot be platonic. I have MANY friends who I have slept with and MANY friends I have NOT slept with but one thing is for sure, If I say I am not sleeping with someone I am not. I cannot be tricked out of my P! So keeping male friends is good because men are honest with us when we need advice. Girlfriends say what we want to hear. STOP BEING SO INSECURE AND SCARED SOMEONE IS GOING TO SEE THROUGH YOUR BULLSHIT, WE ALREADY DO!
3. FAMILY:  A woman who is close to her family will be close to you if you become her family, until then you don't have priority over my family!
4. CLUB RAT: I love this one! Single, pretty, no kids, warm weather, good job, nice car, nice clothes, nice house, hard worker....yeah she going out! Cause MR. Right nor Mr. Wrong is going to knock on HER door. Back in the day, everyone went out to parties on Friday and Saturday night. THEN: Men went with Women! Now we have to go alone, but that is no problem. As long as the Patron and Goose are flowing and BEBE still has fly clothes and shoes women will be out in droves! BUT PLEASE BELIEVE: IF THEY HAD A MAN TO BE AT THE LUX WITH THEY WOULD! NO WOMAN WOULD CHOOSE THE CLUB OVER HER MAN!
5. NICE THUGS DO EXIST! Just like nice hoes exist. I know many men who have the best of both worlds. No woman whats to be with a whimp. No we don't want our ass kicked but we have to know you can and will protect us. PROVIDE and PROTECT! I can cook my ass off, fight like a boxer, dress like Halle Berry, sit down and talk to Donald Trump and Pierce Morgan plus blow ya mind so don't tell me what don't exist!
6. HE TREATED ME BADLY? WOW...U ain't him! You are not in my head like that and I won't let that happen again. If you a nice guy, why were u late three times? Cause you didn't give a fuck...I bet u would not be late to get your homeboy? But you want her to be silent and let you decide what you want to do...NOT this new generation really don't care if you won't date them cause they will date each other....they kicking men out the car, for-real....
7. DUTCH? Where they do that? If you are attempting to date a woman and you cannot not afford dating you should wait. The first year is dates that you pay for....once we are a couple, I cook, you eat...I pay for the food! I suggest we go to Palm Springs...I pay! It's your Birthday, I take you to Tahoe....I pay! If I knew you for less than 90 days my wallet does not open! GOT IT? GOOD
8. Jocks...sounds redundant! no comment and sounds a little haterish!
9. Arguments: I agree on this one! We do need to stop with the yelling! I don't do it. But I have a husband so I guess none of this applies to me anyway. I have been single and I understand what its like to be looking for the right address when none of the buildings are numbered!
10. I deleted one because it was about Facebook stalking and I know damn well no self respecting middle-aged woman would do something so immature!

I am Mrs. Yolanda Davidson-Carter and I approve this message

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